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Old May 15, 2014, 09:43 AM
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Trippin2.0 and A Red Panda. First of all thank you for responding to my post. Second I am sorry that you two are upset with me and my judgments on my sister's boyfriend. But please understand I have good reasons for it:

He was very polite when my sister invited him over. He was so polite that I felt bad for stereotyping him. However after accepting his Facebook request back around 2012 and looking through his content I had my doubts once again.

Most people who are nice and good are that way when they are with thier peers,and when they are alone. One thing I've noticed is that some people have a "real" and "fake" side to them. For example some people are nice and respectful when they are out in public. But when they are alone behind a computer screen or within a comfortable niche they let thier "real" side come loose. That's one of the reasons why very few online posts are safe from trolls. Many online forums are filled with trolls who post hurtful and inflammatory remarks to people. Things like "Dude, you are so ******* ugly go kill yourself" type of posts. And the reason why these online trolls do it is because it is thier "real" side and they know they can get away with it since they are behind a computer screen and have the protection of anonymity. But in public they wouldn't dare to say those exact things.

The same thing goes for online social media networks like Facebook. People tend to be much more honest and reveal thier "real" personality or side on these networks unlike when they are out in public. That is why employers these days will sometimes search for thier candidates on Facebook and Twitter to see if the person they interviewed who was respectful, honest, and honest is the same person when they are not interviewing for a job and in thier own comfortable niche. It helps to reveal thier true and "real" side/personality.

He has a personal record that is filled with infractions and misdemeanors. Most of them are current and he seems to continue to accrue new ones. In his videos on Facebook he is performing lewd and inappropriate acts and stunts. I understand people will let loose and have some fun but his are on the extreme side of the spectrum. His risky behavior in his videos matches exactly the type of kids that get send to that high school for being expelled from the public school system, not because the parents are wealthy and want them to have the best education.

The videos and pictures he posts of himself on Facebook are his "real" side/personality. His record does so as well as he seems to accrue new ones and does not seem to have learned from them at all. His polite demeanor when he was with my parents was clearly something he "faked" as it was the acceptable one out in public. I can almost guarantee if he had showed up to that dinner invitation with his "real" side there is no doubt my parents would disapprove of him immediately.

The reason why I am concerned for my sister is that I don't want her to learn the bad tendencies he has. The second is I don't want my sister to have to deal with the legal issues that he may run himself once again in the near future, which seems very likely as he continues to accrue new ones. Last of all he does not seem to have a career plan well though out and is simply bouncing around with unrealistic optimism.

Last edited by sabby; May 15, 2014 at 10:02 AM. Reason: administrative edit to remove identifying information