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Originally Posted by OneWorld
Do you worry about making your T feel bad when you are open about your feelings in session? Sometimes I don't say what I am thinking because I'm afraid it will make my T feel bad. She is another person, after all. I wouldn't normally say things to someone that I know will make them doubt themselves.
Feeling torn about this!
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I've had this same debate with myself, when do I keep my mouth shut to be nice vs. when should I be brutally honest. I want to say there's nothing wrong with being totally honest, but we both know there sometimes is. My T has a child with down syndrome, and I would never say "wow that must suck for you" because that would be a horrible and awful just miserable thing to say. Really I think it is a case by case thing you need to decide as you go along. With a T you can say quite a lot so long as you deliver things in a nice way, I have told my T feels that probably weren't great about him figuring it's part of the transference really. I'll hesitate if I'm not sure to give myself time to think it through.