There's a big difference between adding someone on facebook and looking up their records. Seeing as he went to add you, he was being polite and obviously didn't mind letting you see everything he has posted there. The fact that you then went well beyond facebook to learn more about him... is disturbing.

And again - just because you believe his personality matches the profile of students who were expelled from other schools... that's your judgement. What do you know of his family? Have you asked him why or how he attended that school? Just because he doesn't fit your image of basically a rich kid... doesn't mean that he doesn't come from that background. If he's gone and done various degrees and keeps changing his mind on things.. then someone has to pay for them....

I never called you a bigot. Take a look through my posts - I've never called you a bigot. I did, however, call you judgemental - which you are. You are extremely judgemental in regards to this guy.

Being concerned about a loved one is fine - everyone is allowed their own opinion and it is great that you care about your sister. But it doesn't give you the right to spy on her bf the way that you have (and that is referring to going outside of facebook). Personally, I find that to be a totally reprehensible act and I can't imagine ever doing that to a child if I had any - and I sure would cut off contact with anyone who decided to look up and pry into my partners!

Basically, I'm giving you my opinions because really, the chances of your sister going "Oh hey, I love that you spied on him and didn't bother to ask me what I saw in him.. yeah I love the fact that you're basically saying that you know him better than I do, thanks so much!" is quite slim. Most people are extremely protective of their partners and really wouldn't react well to it. So... keep your judgements to yourself unless she asks for them. If she asks you what you think of him, then go ahead and tell her what you think. But you're risking your own relationship with her if you go telling her the stuff that you've told us.