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Originally Posted by Perna
I don't think we can know another's intrinsic motivation. Your T has probably helped a lot of clients and learned a great deal and felt a great deal of satisfaction from working with them. T's are kind of the other "half" of us; we want to work on us and they enjoy helping us work on us. What motivation does a parent or friend have? Why are you friends with X? You like them, that's why. There don't have to be reasons other than what makes sense to you.
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But this is something I have never experienced. My T has told me many times that true love, like friends might feel for each other, doesn't expect anything in return. I fret and worry constantly about making sure I am not a burden and making sure others are satisfied in relationship with me, but my T keeps saying what you are: that friends and family, when they truly care, don't have ulterior motives or things to gain. They just enjoy the company of those they call friends. I can't imagine someone wanting to be around me just for the sale me enjoying me. In my mind, they have to get something in return. That's all I know. Does that make sense?