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Originally Posted by emomom
I know thats the name of a book but it describes my situation. On the surface my marriage looks good. I have food, a car, medical, a roof over my head. I dont work. But I dont need to be married to have that. I have been to a divorce lawyer before and I know I would be ok.
My marriage is a shell. I am lonely. We have been to counseling many times but my husband likes his lifestyle. Which is working in another state 4 to 5 days a week and coming home on weekends. This has been going on for 5 years. We dont have anything in common. We dont talk. We dont argue. Its empty. I'm not getting younger, I dont want to wait til I'm 60 to find happiness like my mom did. Unfortunately my wish to change things gets stronger when my moods change so I have a hard time trusting my feelings of wanting to divorce. My dr says she will revisit the subject when I see her next time.
Does anyone else go through this?
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doesn't sound much like a marriage..more like a part time roommate.
it sounds like there are more underlying problems..i can't imagine how a man could be content with being away from his wife 4 or 5 days a week, something is seriously wrong here.
this has been going on for 5 yrs? how long have you guys been married?
what happened that made him sign up for this out of state arrangement.
surely when you guys first got married this couldn't have been the case.
i see a lot of major issues here..no communication, nothing in common, no time spent together..very discouraging indeed. i fear you may have gotten married for the wrong reasons(security, car, house, not having to work)
now i could be wrong ( i have been known to be wrong b4) but that is the impression i get.
if he is unwilling to change..you have to move on, sorry to say this.
i really would try to get him to sit down and you explain your feelings in a non threatening way, i feel like something is driving him away from you..find out what is going on b4 you give up hope.
i hope this helps
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