Oh, probably an amusing anecdote:

Was chatting to the wife last night about how frustrated I was... that I was feeling terrible for the impact I've had on her and that I was sorry for being selfish and self-centered...

She just patted me on the hand and said "no, I understand... and that (selfish and self-centered) isn't the depression... that's because you're man"... said it so dead pan, couldn't help but laugh ... she smiled and pretty much had that way about her.