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Originally Posted by 933127
A Red Panda thank you for posting once again. But please understand I am not some hateful person who is judgmental of every single person. As for the Facebook stalking.....it is not as bad as you described. Anyone who accepts a Facebook request is going to look through thier new friend or new acquaintance that has been added. Anyone who says they have never done anything like that is lying.
His videos gave me a hunch that something was not right about him. Again people goof off and have fun sometimes, nothing wrong with that. But his were real nutty. Some people can't seem to grow out of the delinquency phase and the video just gave me the hunch he didn't grow out of it but merely covering it up. That is the reason why I went to check his record and unfortunately it seemed to be the case. I am not some kind of crazy stalker like you mentioned.
However A Red Panda I can definately understand how furious it is for someone to do CSI forensics on someone without thier consent. I get it, but you need to understand that his videos were troublesome and made me worried what he would be getting my sister involved into.
......I think soccerdad is the only one that seems to understand my situation.  |
1. I never said you were judgemental of everyone - in fact, if you reread my post... I said specifically that you were judgemental towards him.
2. I did not say that going through his fb was spying - in fact I said that as he added you he clearly does not mind you seeing what he has posted. I referred SOLELY to the spying outside of facebook as what is disturbing.
3. No, actually... I really don't need to "get it" that you found his posts worrisome. That's your opinion. Your sister clearly does not share your opinion. You had zero right to spy on him and yes I do personally find that horribly disturbing - much more so than any of the things you have reported him doing.
Please stop twisting my words around. You are completely misinterpreting and misrepresenting the things I have said. I have been trying to show you how your behaviour has been a major boundary violation - and I am only doing that to show you the potential destruction of your relationship with your sister if you continue it. The fact that you keep twisting my words around to try and defend your actions... isn't very indicative of a positive outcome with your sister. You will end up doing the same thing with her if the conversation comes up, and you will possibly face the result of your sister entirely cutting you out of her life while she is in a relationship with him - and possibly even afterwards. That is the worst case scenario based around your behaviour, and I highly doubt that it is what you want to risk happening!