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Originally Posted by Perna
Maybe other people do have ulterior motives; what I am saying is we cannot know. You can't make sure you are not a burden or that others are satisfied because all that is up to them. All you can do is enjoy yourself and your relationships, can't do theirs for them.
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I know this is true. And it's part of why I have such difficulties in relationships. Because I try to figure out why they care. And if I can't, I tend to get anxious and leave the relationship. Which leads to a pattern of being only around those who want something from me (because I understand their motives), which puts me in a position to potentially be mistreated, taken for granted, or abused by others. I have seen this happen over and over, and there are relationships I miss terribly that were very unhealthy because they were based on this dynamic.
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Originally Posted by PeeJay
But, maybe people want to help you and care about you simply because you are you and you deserve it?
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I don't see how I deserve it. And I don't see how I am someone whom others value. I don't feel like I hold any intrinsic value. There are 7 billion people on this earth. What makes me so special? Answer: nothing. I don't deserve any of it.