ah yes..truth v lies..an age old argument is it not??

from a moral standpoint it's easy, black and white..pretty easy for the BPD in me to understand.

lies are bad and the truth is good simple as that, right?????
unfortunately life isn't as black and white or as neat and tidy as i would like to believe.

i have come to understand that "good' and "bad' are subjective terms that describe perceived outcomes.

what is "good" for me..may just happen to be "bad" for you.
i.e if my team wins...i would perceive this as "good", if your team loses "you would perceive it as "bad" and the opposite would apply.

so if we took it to the next level, perhaps someone stole something from a store...morally that would be "bad"..to the person that did it i imagine it would be "good" to the store it would be "bad".

so lets go higher up, suppose a person was on trial for murder..telling the truth would mean certain death, but perhaps a lie..a well placed lie..they go free?? hmm...what would the average person do in that situation. at what point does the "truth' become "bad' and lies suddenly become "good"

a marriage situation with a cheating husband/wife and a suspicious spouse...
could you tell the truth knowing full well the consequences might mean the end?? or would a lie be just a tad more pleasant...hmmm.

a situation with an employer which the truth would mean certain termination from employment..a lie..a reprieve or at least a delay of the inevitable, or perhaps an escape..a mulligan..hmmm.

an interesting paradox indeed, it is quite amazing what we humans are capable of under the most dire of circumstances..is it not?

no obviously the scenarios above could be avoided if the parties involved "did the right thing" in the first place..but let's just say they didn't...what would you do in those shoes...under those circumstances..up against those odds.
just some food for thought