I've developed a negative transference for T because I had a positive transference and we can't discuss it because I can't bring it up first. T NEVER once has asked how I feel about her. She never has used the word, transference, either. So maybe she doesn't even believe in it. But she is so sweet and nurturing I can't make sense of this elephant-in-the-room. I feel ongoing anger at her because dependency was punished by my many caregivers in the past and my inner child is sure that she will do the same.