Hi Pegasus,

In brief, I was with a therapist for over seven years, and about five years ago I realized I was in love with her. Two months ago she terminated therapy, saying she could not help me any more, because I was stuck in my love for, and could not get beyond that. She gave me notice about four months ahead of time.

I am in such pain knowing she will never be a part of my life. I want to have a friendship with her, which she refuses, and have been told by a number of people that any post-therapy relationship with her would be a disaster. My question is this: Why do people assume our friendship would be a disaster? What do they seem to know that I don't? Knowing why could help me get past this awful pain.

Thank you.

Jeff