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Originally Posted by regretful
I do hope that you figure it out sooner than later. I arrived at your conclusions way too late...10 years as a clinician, now working in a family owned business with my wife doing something that she enjoys but I loathe (and that is not even close to explaining the intensity of my disdain for what I do)...That said, I'm not unhappy with my wife (of nearly 20 years), I'm upset that I didn't take a stand and continue with the work that I loved and let her do her own thing employment-wise. Working together in a business is something that can be good for some, but for us it is not.
This led me to some of the same conclusions as you have - questioning whether or not I'm unhappy in my relationship or with myself. For a bit, I thought it was me, but I'm learning that it's a complicated mix of things.
So now, I'm exercising, eating a bit better and trying like heck to extricate myself from a business relationship so that I can bring the life back into my marriage relationship (which is doing well, but has done so much better)...
Best to you...
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Yep, Im there too. I really don't like the business that my fiancé, brother, and I do but they need me right now. I liked counseling, but I don't think I was good at it, or I guess that it was the right time for me. It was emotionally exhausting and my depression was exacerbated. I did, finally, speak up and tell my fiancé what I needed for our relationship. In this business, it is non-stop. He doesn't go to bed until 1:00am almost every night, and is working on the computer and/or talking on the phone the entire time. On weekends, he still takes work calls and sometimes still does computer work. He actually listened to me and we have scheduled a weekend of just us and he has agreed to turn off his phone! I truly hope this will allow us to be closer and remind me why we are getting married!