Yes, you are right this guy was abusive and needed to put you down and control you.
You did the right thing by leaving him too. When a guy wants you to give up your friends and treats you that way, that is a red flag and now you know to break away because this kind of guy will treat any girl he hooks up with that way, and it was not just "you".

Sometimes a woman will hook up and stay with someone for reasons she isn't recognizing, and often the pheromones can play a role in this too and pheromones
are only given off to keep a pair together to mate, which is only nature, and doesn't
select the other psychological needs that should be there too. So don't let yourself
feel "too guilty", you learned something and now you will see the warning signs so
you will know better next time.

OE