Thanks Useless, that's how I've generally felt about it.

He promised he would pay the loans back but he was 18 years old and had no idea what that would mean. When I was that age, my Dad didn't even include me in talks of money because he knew what any sensible parent would - I was clueless. When my college asked him if he'd like to take out a PLUS loan, he asked about repayment options and immediately declined. My fiance's parents either didn't ask or assumed that my fiance would remain living at home while he paid them back.

The problem there is he's Agnostic and they would only allow him to continue living at home if he remained Baptist or Catholic or anything that closely believes what they do. When he was 21, he went out to eat with a friend at the mall. He ordered a beer with his dinner and just then his mother happened to pass by and see. By the time he got home a few hours later, they'd already packed most of his stuff and kicked him out.

So now we live together and he's been footing the bill for their loans. It crushes us and I'm so tired of my job, so trapped, and no one has shown any sympathy. His Dad says he can't help or he'd have to work too much but his solution is for me to work - even though he forbids his princess wife from working - and my fiance to get a second job. They spend money so frivolously it's sickening. To continually break my back, never see my fiance, never have the energy to enjoy even a shred of my youth...and then be told my wedding isn't even on the Approved list is like a kick in the teeth.

I felt guilty when I made this thread but they clearly don't feel bad at all. So after even more thought and discussion with co-workers, we've decided to go through with stopping payment and I don't feel bad anymore. Because God knows they don't feel bad so why should I? I've been told that if you're Agnostic you can't feel bad anyways.