WinterRose, Good question! I like people to engage me. Yes thats what I find supportive. Posts such as "Oh honey or oh sweetie" I find condencending. I appricate honesty from others even if at the time it hurts me. To be honest as long as namecalling isn't included I'm fine with most replys. Even If someone wsa to reply to me that they think I'm wrong and then tell me why. Thats fine also! I think even if someone was to tell me that get pissed of with my "whinging" LOL, i'd be fine as well! I dunno I've got a BS detector that is finely tuned LOL, maybe because of my own BS LOL!