I'm in my mid 50s my wife is 9 years younger ...we are retired with 2kids in college... there is no question I love my wife and I want to be with her and only her forever...but since she has told me she can no longer respond because she is not interested,it's not important to her...I've been devastated and can't think of anything else...I feel it's truely threathening our lifes together...I know she is more important to me than that lost feeling but...our conventional physical relationship(sex) has not been what I had hoped for and I have told her that before in our life which is not good...I've always tried to be a good lover with consideration, respect and compliments to some of the dirty talk on occasion but she stopped liking that long ago. Just when I thought we had it together ...this. She has taught me sex is not important but this is so difficult...she has agreed to an arrangement...where I get on top and finish myself but with no response from her it is absolutely horrible...I try to think of her kindness,her consideration, her beauty...but knowing she is cringing inside...I can't handle it...professional help is not an option for us.