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Originally Posted by trying2survive
doesn't sound much like a marriage..more like a part time roommate.
it sounds like there are more underlying problems..i can't imagine how a man could be content with being away from his wife 4 or 5 days a week, something is seriously wrong here.
this has been going on for 5 yrs? how long have you guys been married?
what happened that made him sign up for this out of state arrangement.
surely when you guys first got married this couldn't have been the case.
i see a lot of major issues here..no communication, nothing in common, no time spent together..very discouraging indeed. i fear you may have gotten married for the wrong reasons(security, car, house, not having to work)
now i could be wrong ( i have been known to be wrong b4) but that is the impression i get.
if he is unwilling to change..you have to move on, sorry to say this.
i really would try to get him to sit down and you explain your feelings in a non threatening way, i feel like something is driving him away from you..find out what is going on b4 you give up hope.
i hope this helps
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We've been married 28 yrs, a retired military couple. His last active duty year and the last 4 years since his retirement he has worked in DC as a defense contractor while I live in VA I was still raising my kids. They are now married and out of the house. I asked about moving where he works and he said no, he makes more money this way. We have had many separations and much neglect over the many years. He has been a workaholic when he has been 'home'. We have been to marriage counseling several times.
When I am stable I do my own thing and ignore it. When I get in a 'mood' I cant ignore it. I dont know why. But no, I didnt sign up selfishly to have 'security' it has been a military marriage from day 1 and our first duty station was Germany with our first child born there. I was just fortunate that I could stay home to raise my kids. I have supported my husband while he did his job in the army all those years. Army wife/mom is a difficult job.