Yes, I went through that and read evrything I could and the book Too Good To Leave...Unfortunately in the end you have to make the decisiion by yourself. I got a divorce at 57. The x was verbally and physically abusive. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans gave me the tools to make the decisiion to leave. It is so hard; you go back and forth and make yourself crazy. Getting into counseling for YOURSELF is the best thing you can do.