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Originally Posted by Cingmore
Thank you very much for that post Trying2survive. It helped me see something in myself. I think I believed everyone had a conscience, it was just buried and you had to dig deep to find it. Now I can see that a conscience does not exist for some. The concept of this is very unsettling to me.
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yes indeed & i think it should be, most of us give people the benefit of the doubt.the sad reality is not everyone is going to "do the right thing"
this is one of the harder lessons i have learned in life and through several of my relationships, i inherently believed everyone was a "good" person until proven otherwise.
i too used to believe everyone had a conscience and if you are good to people naturally they would be good to you..unfortunately i found out the hard way, it just doesn't work like that all the time...i'm not bitter..just more educated ..i consider myself "warned" i learned a tough lesson last summer a young lady completely lied to me about her feelings for me and our "future" together..it was a ruse. to manipulate me and take advantage of me for financial gain. she ruined a decent relationship i had at the time because i believed her words and thought the "grass was greener" on the other side so to speak.
to her her "lies" were "good" they worked for her, she got money out of me, a place to live, etc. my feelings and "the truth' didn't matter.."the truth' would have been bad for her...had i realized her true intentions i would have ran for the hills. so though "the truth" would have been so much better for me...it would not have been better at all for her.
so we have to be careful..a naive view of the world (like i had) will get us burnt..not everyone sees eye to eye & not everyone plays by the same rules.
we may not like it..but we need to understand it for our own protection. just because we see things one way doesn't mean there is someone else out there with a different agenda, a different way of seeing things...playing with a different deck of cards..they are out there..i have run into them, i can't get mad at them or expect them to change..only try to understand so i can see the warning signs and avoid further trouble!
on some level most people are looking out for their best interest...and sometimes that doesn't coincide with ours...this is what we need to beware of!
hope this helps all who have read my input.
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I have learned that i and i alone am responsible for my happiness, most people these days are as reliable as wet toilet paper!
