I am a Borderline, and reading that book scared the crap out of me, because I realized how much I was and had affected others in my life. I was scared to let my wife read it, but when I did she simply said "you're not that bad", and left it at that.

I recommend another book Siren's Song, can't recall the author right now but it is about a PDOC who marries a suicide attempt that he treats in hospital, thinking she is the most wonderful woman in the world. He feels he can 'save' her. In the end ... well read the book. I was very upset by it but it was honest.

Back then I had a PDOC and she sort of was against me reading either of the books...but I am naturally curious and had to learn more about the BPD experience. The more I learn the more I realize not much seems to be done to help us. I have been in therapy for two years (before my PDOC up and quit retired...at the age of 30 something). Up until a few years ago I only thought i was battling depression for the past 20 years... SIGH