Hello Gordon.
I am sorry you are going through this issus with your wife at ths time. I would highly suggest seeking counseling to help you through this, since your wife is obviously having issues herself at this time. Perhaps your wife is experiencing menopause and it is effecting the relationship at this time. Having a heart to heart talk with your wife may be in order, it goes deeper than just sexual issues and it is possibly related to menopause. Try to be open minded and get the help you need and then hopefully your wife will see that you re trying to save the relationship and get help herself. Take care I hope things get better for you and your wife soon. Take care and good day Soidhonia