Hello and welcome to Psych Central.
I agree with the above statement. Some men are reluctant to get therapeutic help. In this case, you need to set some boundaries in your home, since your husbands depression will start affecting your mental health and your marriage as well from his refusal to get help for his issues.
I would highly suggest seeking out marriage counseling or professional therapy for yourself, to help you address and set the boundaries you are going to need to set for the safety of your own mental health and marital well being.
I hope the best for you and your family. Take care and good day. Soidhonia