First off, mentally ill people are not destined to live out their lives in community homes. You go through treatment and learn to manage your life. If you have anxiety, then yes, you have a mental illness. Do you have anything else? Who knows! You're probably more emotionally sensitive than your brother which is why your parent's words don't seem to effect him the way they do you. I would not call parents who say mean things "really abusive". Yes, rude comments and put downs are verbal abuse, and it can get bad and have a life long effect on you, but unless they're threatening your physical well-being and you believe in their intent... well we all see things differently. Also abusers never think they're in the wrong, they always blame the victim, so you're not delusional.