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It is soooooo hard to be friends with someone you love. I tried it. My lover was so close to me. He was really the best friend I ever had! He knew me like no other and I knew and understood him as well. He wanted to have other relationships but wanted to keep our friendship... I tried for almost 2 yrs...I was the emotional nut case. It hurt toooo much. He would wonder why I was getting mad...I told him it comes from a place of love and loss.. I could not handle it.
Another year goes by. We do talk now and then..but amazingly the hurt is gone...and I also no longer see the man I fell in love with the same way. We were together for almost 7 years. I loved that relationship and we both grew from it. We taught each other many things. I have no regrets and will always love what we had.
Good luck with your decisions, Aiyana...the brain and heart are not always on the same page.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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