My experiences when my kids told me they hated me didn't mean the hated me, just hated the decisions or things I did.
And sometimes it was a way for them to verbalize their dislike about something and it was the only way they knew how to say it.

I am curious if this is your middle child. Middle children very often have issues with feeling left out of the loop. They aren't the oldest and not the youngest and sometimes their needs aren't met like the other kids are. I'm not saying that parents do this intentionally, but it just happens sometimes and parents need to be aware of that.

Maybe if you can put aside some special time each week for the two of you to do something fun together....no strings attached. Something that is not hung over her head and taken away if she behaves poorly during the week. The only way she should loose that special time with you is if she behaves poorly during the time you are spending together.

I wish you and your family well!

Hugsssssss
J