Don't want to sound ignorant yet really want to offer some sort of support. I'll be honest though; you shouldn't go for something that makes you so uncomfortable because you'll be extremely unhappy and it wouldn't work out. You said you're both trying to compromise but how much this bothers you is really apparent. Hate to say it - even though you haven't given details I know an example where a similar situation didn't end well. Is there a way a substitute can be worked out?

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