OK guys. This is a long story. If you don't feel like it, I understand ;-)
If you answer, please try to give me a detailed answer if you can. I know it is not easy to have an opinion on other people's story.

OK so I met a guy 6 months ago over the net. Since we were getting along well, we decided to meet. We hit it of right away.
But I must say I found it strange. THe first day he said we could on vacation together. Waow, slow down! He seemed like a kid at Chrismas. But when I talked serious, I could feel him getting distant. Strange contradiction. Well, after one week he seemed very ill at ease and he said he didn't know anymore, that he was very afraid to suffer.
So I said we should call it off but he didn't want to. OK one week later he acts weird again. I am puzzled. I tell him I love him by sms. No answer. He says he hadn't checked his phone in the morning, and that he loves me too (sounds very sincere). He tells me again in an e-mail. He comes to visit me because I hadn't moved yet to his city (300 miles) but it was planned.
Honestly I expected him to cancle everything but he did come. But all the time he acted distant, joked about staying in the guest room.... When he's back home again he acts weird and wants to call it off. Again he changes his mind, telling me he needs time.
I go to see him a week later, he has obviously decided that he should give it a try, not long. This time he says "I don't want to take advantage of you, I believe I don't love you enough, but I do have feelings for you". I can see he has but well, yes, that's not enough for me. So finally I see no choice and I end this.
Of course, since so much is unclear, I can't closure. Could you? Well, no I guess.

After the break we stay in touch but he is very moody. He seems to feel really guilty about this. So I suppose that's why he stayed in touch but then the contact stops after a an argument. He blocks me on MSN. Nice!
So I decide to do a thing I wouldn't do normally. I get in touch with him under a false identity (female). He is a bit naïve so he believes, at least at first, in this character.
And the FIRST thing he tells this girl is : "I wronged a nice person. I was crazy about someone else. At first everything went well with my girlfriend (me), but then I started thinking of the other one again and the worst is that I haven't even met this other girl. Call me a loser!". Imagine the surprise!
But somehow I had the feeling that wasn't the real reason for the breakup but another symptom of the real reason. Honestly, who would go crazy like this for someone you never met? For me this guy wasn't capable of living in real life.
He said he wanted to move on. Find the woman of his dreams. That I was too old, too difficult, etc etc... That it couldn't work out etc...
But the discussion with my character moved him to unblock me on MSN.
I decided to call him as myself. He said he expected my call. After 4 months???
We had a very pleasant conversation over 3 hours. He did sound like someone who cares about me so I was getting more and more confused.
I said we should meet, he was reluctant but accepted when I said I just neeeded this to move on at last.
I could see that he was struggling, not knowing how to tell me about this other girl, not knowing I knew already.
He didn't manage to do so and literally fled. Great!
He told my character he had tried and I had the feeling he wanted validation, he wanted to hear he was not a jerk and mummy still loved him.
This was leading nowhere. So I decided to find out the rest by identifying with him.
My character told him she just broke up with a guy she didn't really love etc... But when she told him the failure was all her fault he answered "Same here!" then paused and said "What did I just say?? How odd! Very, very interesting".
When she asked him to tell her without thinking what he felt for me, he said "Affection, tenderness" and he paused again. He added : "Man, you are good at bringing things out".
When had very fun conversations for a month then I decided to tell him it was me talking to him. He was puzzled but not angry. He told me he didn"t understand why I had done it. He wanted to stay in touch.
We met. It was like the first time we met. He was considerate, interested, told me he was always checking out what I did on my webpage etc... I was a bit suspicious. I told him I had a new boyfriend, but he didn"t seem to register that. I must say that my relationship was a bit shaky, long distance, difference in temper etc...
Basically he flirted with me. But when it went too far I asked him what he wanted. No answer. The next day he apologized and said I had been so right to put some limits and that he was grateful. After that I could feel he wanted to end the contact but he asked all the time where I was, what I was doing. He said, he was alone, he hadn't met other girls, that he wasn't flirting with anybody (I didn't ask him!). He defended me when someone criticized me. He was actually sweet and caring!

I met him again one week later. Same story. Even though he told me, he would behave, that he "got the message". He really seemed to believe it but again I had to put some limits in the end. Again he was pissed off. When I told him to stop toying with me, he seemed surprised and said "I would never do such a thing. I am not toying with you".
When I said that his actions were probably only sexually motivated, he said "Yes, that must be it. It is the only explanation" After that he wanted to stop the contact. He said he was afraid he would act like this again, that I should move on and he wanted to move on too. I don't understand why HE has to move on. He said he wasn't in touch anymore with this other girl or any of his exes (two girls), that he wasn't a jerk. I could feel that a part of him wanted to stay in touch. I agreed to end the contact since this is going nowhere.
Still with me? Thanks
Voilà. All my friends are puzzled, they say he is very contradictory, that it doesn't add up. He doesn't behave like someone who wants to be with me, but they say it is obvious that he has deep feelings for me. Even people who don't like him think so. They think he just can't handle the situation.
He said once to my character, he was masochistic, destroyed every nice thing in his life and didn't deserve to be happy. I don't know if that's the reason or if I just was the wrong person. You can imagine how difficult it is to "move on" when you have the feeling it could have worked out, that is was just too early for him.
Maybe you think I am foolish, too understanding. I wonder of course.
One last thing: he had deleted my character from MSN when he knew it was me (makes sense to delete fake people lol). I just noticed he has added her to his list again, while he has deleted me but not blocked this time. Why on earth would you add a fake character to your MSN list, someone who's never online! Was he spying on me to see if I get in touch with someone else with that identity ? Why? Once he asked why I hided my ID on the phone. If I was up to something. When I joked with him that I had beeen flirting with a guy to let me in the building, he said "Doesn't surprise me!". Basically he was thinking I was toying with HIM!
But why keep the character in his list now? That's a funny one! He hasnt deleted my fake character's e-mail either even though this girl doesn't exist!!!! Yeah she's fake but she had all my personality and he got along with her really well!!! Lol. Life is stupid.

Well, this has a kind of funny side to it. I was devastated but somehow now I am just dealing with a jigsaw puzzle.