I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who has taken the time to answer and given me so much to think about. I have a lot to research, again...I saw a divorce lawyer a couple of years ago when I confronted my husband about someone telling me he was cheating. He didnt know about the lawyer but his behavior improved for a while so I think he got put on notice, even though he denied the accusation.
There's more to it but not enough time or space