My husband has complained for pretty much as long as we've been together (8 years) that I don't initiate sex. It's not that I'm not attracted to him or that I don't enjoy sex, I do. I am thinking about seeing a sex therapist because I've never had an orgasm, which I'm sure is a big part of the problem. It's gotten to the point where he doesn't initiate much anymore either. He says my apparent lack of interest has caused his libido to basically shut off, partly because I don't make him feel wanted by wanting sex.
Has anyone had this problem? Mainly I mean sex becoming very infrequent because one partner doesn't initiate? He says every other woman he's been with initiated sex as much as he did. Is that true for other relationships? Initiating is equal? When he initiates I rarely say no, so I guess I don't get why he wouldn't just do that as often as HE wants sex.