Perhaps you can discuss this with your T; ways to be clear with your H. Even ask for different words to say if he isn't hearing the ones you are using. Yes, I know that NO is a universally understood one but it isn't getting in. He isn't thinking with the right head when these things are happening, but I'm sure you already know that. He may think he is being playful & not realizing that he is making you angry.
Maybe going to counseling together might help him understand you a little better and help the two of you figure out how to get his needs met while yours are so low right now.
Sorry you are having this going on...