"You have to get rid of your own problems first before you find your soulmate." Honestly this advice pisses me off. Here's why: it implies that people who are NOT perfect, who have issues for whatever reason, who are essentially faithful and loving and capable and smart despite the fact that they may be struggling with someone, are not good enough to be in a relationship. Okay, well, what if you are someone who has ALWAYS had issues? What if you have them right now but are coping with them? What if it's likely that you always will have these issues? I really resent that you have to be a boring little cookie-cutter shell of a real human being to even have a chance with someone. Why doesn't everyone simply grow a pair and accept that life happens, and in the real world people get hurt and need to pick up the pieces? It makes me really angry that I can't be myself around a guy because if he gets the slightest idea that I'm "damaged goods" or whatever you want to call it, he runs away. No I am not a perfect brainless little Barbie doll, and I have no intention of becoming one. I am, however, a very caring, thoughtful, funny and bright individual who would always be faithful and committed to our relationship. Obviously, most guys seem to prefer the Barbie doll, and it makes me so mad (in case you couldn't already tell). Society is so ****in stupid.