My partner likes to begin sex the same way each time. She's on top and she says that this allows her to stimulate herself with precision, so I guess it's reasonable that this is what we should do. She also likes me to touch her boobs, so I do that.

My problem is that there is not enough spontaneity and if I want to do something different or I just want to pounce on her she sort of guides me into our usual routine.

I understand that her pleasure is important, but I think our coupling should be about more than that, at times.

Thoughts, or similar experiences?