This thread may have been just what i needed to read this morning. I can relate to the "inappropriate relationship" theme in a number of ways -- being attracted to unattainable men, getting stuck in relationships that are not right for me. I fixate on relationships in general when I like someone and I feel that the feeling might not be reciprocated.

The worst though is now that I am finally in a stable relationship, I should be contented, but I continue to fixate on a (married) man who had, in the past, been flirtatious with me. I was unable to process what was going on at the time, and worked to turn that flirtation into a friendship. That might have worked if I was any good at maintaining casual relationships.

I see this man every day at work. He is friendly and is always willing and receptive to having a conversation, but I feel ashamed and angry that I actually put work into being his friend, while he is just on the receiving end. I stop by his office or text occasionally -- this is not reciprocated. I want to just stop without getting upset at him while doing so, but haven't been able to. It is so much easier to keep the friendly vibe going externally and sublimate (and chastise myself for) my discontent. It sucks.