Thanks for all the replies, it is really helpful.

Sweepy, I'm not sure the inner child, or other parts, theory sits well with me either. It definitely stressed me out when T brought it up last Friday. I guess maybe for whatever reason it might be ok to feel comforted this way? I am just so not used to comforting myself or taking care of myself like that....weird and ikky is how it feels, wrong somehow. I am not puting down what others do, because what you say for yourselves makes complete and utter sense. But comfort for me? Not allowed....... sigh