This is so accurate. I read this over and over, that you have to be "healed" before you can be in a healthy relationship...I never questioned that until you brought it up, and you are so right. Sometimes you aren't healed or haven't "gotten over your problems" until you meet the right person who takes your hand and guides you through to see and learn things you didn't know before. Like that quote, "One day someone is going to hug you so tight that all your broken pieces will stick back together." Just be YOU, perfectly imperfect.... the right man will accept it and you will find that everlasting bond. I don't believe their is one soul mate, everyone is brought to our life for a reason there is just a special someone who will stay longer and be connected to our souls deeply. Don't be discouraged or mad, be thankful you aren't like anyone else!