I'm in the process of possibly reconciling with someone and have been weighting the pros/cons, and basically analyzing everything to make sure I am making the best decision for myself. During this analysis one of my biggest issues is he wont say he loves me. We have been together about a year and a half (little bit rocky for few months in between), he tells me how "crazy" he is about me, how much he "adores" me, but wont say I Love You. I have told him in conversation I do love him, and that by me saying that it wasn't meant for him to feel pressured but I wanted him to know my feelings for him. He has also said once or twice in conversation I am in love with you, or during our break up he said I dont know why I struggled with those three words but I can say "I love you past present and future". But, when it comes to him actually saying it, he will hug me in coversation and say I adore you- jokingly I'll say you love me just admit it! He'll say nooo... I threw around those words way too fast in my past, so I drop it. I DO NOT want to force the issue, or push it, or put too much weight on it, but it's come to the point where I wonder if maybe he just cant get to that place with me and he is just dragging this out. I know everyone is on a different time line with love. I'm not sure I can continue to be with someone who isn't sure if they "love" me after a year and a half. I know to men, those words have different meaning....but if feelings haven't progressed to "loving" someone after this amount of time and the things we have been through- him telling me he has never been so emotionally connected to another ever.... I don't want to wait for ever to "fight for love." Does this make sense? I wont bring this up to him becaue I want someone to do this on their own terms, but eventually I think it will be a deal breaker for me.... is that selfish?