Is it "normal" or even ethical for a psychologist to refuse to treat a patient if he/she won't make a firm commitment to get a divorce? I thought therapists could provide the skills to help people sort through the stay vs go pros and cons. And from what I have read, therapists should at least find a couple of referrals for the patient if they refuse to treat. Not for me...just the ultimatum, my reiteration that divorce is not on the current list of options for my situation and then the boot right out the door.
The outright ultimatum pushed me into an anxiety attack that is still affecting me many days later. What does that psychologist know that I don't know? And why would it be presented as an ultimatum rather than an explanation? Or better yet a diagnosis? Or do psychologists avoid making statements about diagnosis?