I am going to post a brief snippet of a conversation I was having with my boyfriend last night and then I am going to tell you what his response was

"all the moaning I do is not meant to make to you change this situation right now because you cannot do that, I just want to make sure my suffering does not go unnoticed,

that the level of unfairness I live with does not go unnoticed and my loving and kindness if the face of aforementioned does not go unnoticed
I don't want you to alleviate my suffering but congratulate me on bearing it,
I feel like it makes me special
and sometimes I may in fact put on a bit and seem more upset, sad, mopey than I really am because I don't feel like you are giving the praise and attention that I deserve
like a little kid that hurts their foot and limps obviously more than necessary "

at this point he tells me that he no longer wants me to discuss my feelings with him because I just say the same thing over and over just worded differently. He says that if I feel like I need to talk about my feelings to call a friend. I as simply devastated by this. How can you have any sort of emotional closeness if I am barred from talking about my feelings ?