I hear what Josie and Soccerdad are saying, and ordinarily I would say very similar things, but my stance on this being retarded advice is based on the fact this seems to have been quoted from someone / somewhere.

If someone actually said that to me, I would think its retarded, but if its an interpretation of how a healthy self does contribute greatly to healthy relationship, then I agree 100%

The way its phrased just rubs me up the wrong way.