i agree with HAzel. its worth discussing. better than just trying to GUESS why. i, too, have a hard time really feeling that someone cares about me. i find it hard to hold on to the moments when i DO feel like my T cares. i try to think back to those moments. but its a trust issue i guess. so many people in my life have said one thing and done another. so i expect my T to be like that too. say he cares but doesnt really. but deep down inside of me i DO know he cares a lot. its just hard to access that in times of distress