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Old May 20, 2014, 02:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Petra5ed View Post
Every time this happens to me I feel like I'm stupid for caring. He wants me to get vulnerable, but how does that happen? How do you open up to someone who doesn't really care about you? I can see if I emailed him all the time this being the response, but how can I feel cared for when I know that if the **** hit's the fan he is not going to be there for me. I know he cant be there for me, but I mean not even there for me in the sense of sending back a sentence or two, "I'm sorry, let's talk about that next time." God, I'm not even a therapist but I've had clients email me stuff venting... "my wife was diagnosed with cancer" or "my kid is in the hospital." I cant ignore that, my job isn't even therapy but I still reply as a human being.
The tricky thing about vulnerability is that the only way to learn how to be vulnerable is to practice being vulnerable. There's no easy way around it. If you feel like he won't be there for you, can you talk to him about that first? Maybe that would be an easier topic to start with?
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