[Why do shrinks always have to upset us???[/QUOTE]

Tell her just what you told us... how afraid you are of talking about certain stuff.

IMHO, any good T is sincerely trying to help you, and they can do that best when you are honest. So if you can't talk about the things she is asking about, tell her that you can't.

She's asking this stuff not to upset you, she's hoping to understand you. Sometimes, it's the things we don't want to talk about that are clues to why we feel so bad. And sometimes, when we find out why, we can figure out how NOT to feel so bad.