I don't know why I bother posting here, you all have got to be the most judgmental people I have ever come across. Yes I am breaking a huge social taboo by being with a married man, he said as far as he was concerned his marriage was over and I was who he wanted to be with and I took him at his word. Clearly you people are so mired in social convention you cannot see beyond that. I will know better than to come to this forum for support on suggestions. How would your answers have been different if I lied and said he was my husband ?