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Originally Posted by kawaiigurl1981
I don't know why I bother posting here, you all have got to be the most judgmental people I have ever come across. Yes I am breaking a huge social taboo by being with a married man, he said as far as he was concerned his marriage was over and I was who he wanted to be with and I took him at his word. Clearly you people are so mired in social convention you cannot see beyond that. I will know better than to come to this forum for support on suggestions. How would your answers have been different if I lied and said he was my husband ?
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My first answer still would have been the exact same long, detailed, thoughtful post that I put much effort into.
I still would have expressed concern about the relationship, though the concern is about one hundred fold because there is less to anchor one in your given situation.
I'm pretty sure my commentary on your specific situation was hardly judgemental. If you can point out where it seemed to obviously come from a judgemental, particularly harsh place or from the point of view that you are 'breaking social convention', I would gladly discuss that and clear it up for you.
As it stands, since he comes back to work on mondays and you say you feel invisible, he talks about his weekend with his family to the point where you are suffering greatly, and this is all because he is NOT, in fact your husband... I'm not entirely sure how your question actually makes sense. You wouldn't really be able to explain the situation and get advice or anyone else's point of view on the situation by saying he is your husband.