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If you don't spend much time doing it then you're pretty successful to get what you do done!
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That's one way of looking at it, I suppose.
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I can relate to the career struggle and related shame. Right now I am out of the work force, just living frugally off savings and helping my elderly parents. I am an ACoA so I've always had trouble with the whole concept of career, a future. I think most of it has to do with self sabotage and distrust of people I don't know well... avoiding their scrutiny, criticism and harsh judgment... and assuming I'll be rejected. So I'm stuck on the sidelines, afraid to make new friends, avoiding old friends... isolating. Everyone is so hung up on what people do for a living. And there is a stigma for not being in the right class -- white collar vs. blue collar.. what have you. Some of it is blown up in my head but much of it is real. And I just don't seem to have it in me to start my own gig. I'm stuck. Not sure how I'll get unstuck. Well, just wanted to say I relate
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I think it's kind of crazy how much stigma is attached to not having the "right" career or doing it the "right" way...and I totally get what you mean about some of it being real and some of it being blown up in your head. I wonder how much of it is just me being self-conscious. But there ARE judgmental people out there so I don't think it's entirely paranoia.
I feel like I just need to admit to some people close to me that I don't think I am able to work outside the home. I feel a lot of shame because of that. Like, even if I had a minimum wage job outside of the home, I would feel more "capable," if you know what I mean.
I wish you luck in your own career endeavors. Sheesh, things are rough sometimes.