I was going to ask if he was jealous. When I started therapy I talked to my husband about the relationship because I didn't want him to feel slighted. Thankfully, he understands but it could be because my therapist is a woman. Good thing too because I drive about 40 miles to
get there.

It's hard when you have to battle someone for the right to do something for yourself. Hopefully your T will understand and y'all can work it out.
Maybe you could ask your husband if he would feel differently if your therapist was a woman. it might be something to consider when/if you decide to move on with therapy.

Best of luck.