For me, emotional regulation means not doing something harmful or going to bed or even just not mentally freaking out "too much" whenever contacted by the evil ones. It means leaving well ahead of time for my doctor appointments instead of waiting til the last minute then freaking out if there is a little traffic jam. So it is more about learning to handle things the way my mother didnt handle them with me, even tho she may have done those things for herself. She didnt teach them to me growing up. She was always rushing me. Always making me nervous. Always letting me know i was getting in the way somehow, and all she wanted to do was get me back out of the way asap. I think your t is finally seeing how intrusive you feel just sitting there? Thats what it sounded like she said.