I was thinking along the lines of Yoda.......When our parents don't teach us the healthy sexual boundaries of SAYING NO & MEANING IT along with parents helping their kids know what situations NOT to get into......it actually goes back to what kids have been taught about abstinance & not even going into situations. If you have sound values to base your actions on & you have the self confidence that you are right....then it doesn't matter what crap the guy says.....& it's not likely that they will be able to coerce you into things you know inside is the wrong thing to do....but without foundational values to base it on.....you have no foundation at all to use for your own protection.

Some parents claim now unimportant & how brainwashing it is to teach kids moral values during their growing up years...& let them figure it out on their own.....but then it's like letting the sheep go to the wolves without a shepard to protect them & no way to protect themselves.

If you weren't taught the moral values of abstinence & understanding of not even messing around in that way, it's probably not your fault that you weren't even taught what your boundarieds should be. How can you enforce boundaries you don't even know should exist? Even though internally I think we know by instinct....but now that society makes everything about sex, it makes it even more difficult to stick to boundaries if you know what they should be.

It's as much failure of parents as it is anything else.....but obviously some parents do take on the responsibility & have kids that rebel at it.

Sometimes we just have to use the bad situations that come into our lives as the learning experience we would have better off learned by being taught rather than by experience....sometimes we don't get that choice & just have to do the best we can.