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Originally Posted by AmyFed07
Do you ever just cry during your session with your t? I seem to have a brick wall in front of me when I'm crying when people are around so the most I've done is just a few sniffles. I feel comfortable with my T, but can't seem to get over the suck it up an move on mentality. I keep wishing that I could just go in, sit on the floor or in the chair and just bawl my eyes out. But I feel like that would be wasting his time just to listen to me pour my heart out and cry the whole time. I also think about hiding out in the bathroom and crying to see if he'll have someone look for me. That way I'm not crying in front of someone but he'll still know. I feel completely insane for thinking this stuff.
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Yes, I do. I've had sessions that were mostly just sobbing. They were so hard, and it took a while to get to the place where I felt comfortable doing that. My therapist and I talked about crying and what she thought of it and what I thought of it. For all my fear and concern about whether crying was useful or if I'd ever stop or if she'd have a problem with it, and how "ugly" I sound when crying etc. etc.... it has been a relief to do all that crying and to know if I just need a place to cry, I can do it in therapy and be comforted.
She even sent me a song a while back about never needing to cry alone. So touching.
Maybe you can share with him what you wrote, and hopefully as the relationship develops it'll get easier. I do believe and my therapist knows that crying is important for relieving stress and is a cleansing, healing thing to do.