Excuse me but this realllly baffles me

You and he both come from previous relationships, that ended largely due to avoidance and non-existant communication, yet here you are reliving the same nightmare with eachother????

Am I understanding this correctly???

TBH I have no idea what you two are even doing, being together, I would think that in the very beginning of this relationship (because communication is present from day one, it doesn't surprize you months later), that atleast 1 rational adult would go "Wooah stop the car, I know where this road leads..." and exit gracefully.

Buuut, here you are months later and I have to agree with the 2 previous posters...

I'm sure his ex felt like you do about your ex and his failure to communicate, and if he didn't change his ways to save a 20yrs relationship, do you honestly think he's going to do so for a 7 month connection?

Also I'm confused as to how you 2 are nourishing this connection when he refuses to talk about the important bits...